The Reason
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support,
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Soup Profiles 
We may come from different backgrounds, be of different races, speak different languages and have different interests but at the end of the day, we have all ended up in the same bowl of soup. As we expand into our latest wing, the soup blog, let us introduce our resident bloggers.
Chief Editor:
thesoupistooboss - Oversees the day to day operations of the soup
US Correspondent:
thesoupistooxxx - Based in Annapolis, thesoupistooxxx provides insight into the workings of the American society for our predominant Asian base.
Legal Correspondent:
thesoupistoosweet - A future legal eagle in the making.
Finance Correspondent:
thesoupistoofumo - Get a bigger picture of what's happening in the markets around you.
IT Correspondent:
thesoupistookinky - Our resident IT guy. Able to blog anywhere with an EEE PC permanently by his side.
Teenage Writer:
thesoupistooid - As we pass from our turbulent adolescence into adulthood, thesoupistooid seeks to keep us informed of the latest happenings with today's youth.
Anime Host:
thesoupistoogayy - Wondering what anime to watch? Or what's going to be released? Let our anime host tell you more.
Uncle Agony:
thesoupistoosalty -
Are you feeling blue? Is work getting you down? Are you having troubles with your relationship? Look no further than thesoupistoosalty and allow him to provide you with some of his invaluable advice.
Fitness Guru:
thesoupistoopradz -
Equipped with a state-of-the-art gymnasium, weekly workouts are in order.
Illustrator:
thesoupistooheng -
ze artistic flavour is brought out by the one and only.
We would also like to introduce our lovely covergirls! Girls like them are as hard to come by as it gets and we're thanking our lucky soups that they're here to stay. Lets us introduce, the beautiful, the stunning and the sexy CHENG, NETTE, AND EMMI!
*applause*
Monday, April 7, 2008
PMS, relationships and life
This a a post to the PMS, relationship and life posts.
PMS:
I have to agree wholeheartedly with the soupistoofumo on this modern day dilemma. PMS has very much been normalized here in the Western world where sex constitutes part of a person's daily routine. Perhaps it will come a day where all Asians will come to the realization that not all things Western are "best". Saying no to PMS is analogous to making a sound investment, where compounded interest is a function of "money-time density". Abstinence reflects a person's sense of self worth and is perhaps the most invaluable betrothal gift. It embodies the culmination of, trust, faith, fidelity and probably ranks next to self sacrifice. This indeed is the secular and temporal reasoning of PMS, however in the Godly context, no more need to said.
Relationships:
Relationships (excluding male-male ones lol) should and can only be built on a rock foundation should it be made to last. On the sub-topic of thesoupistoofumo being disillusioned about breakups I would like to share Smith and Andrews(1989) research on conflicts in teams (another one of my classes that I have to take) which is applicable also to relationships. There are basically 4 levels of conflicts.
I Facts or data
Basic communication problems involving facts.
II Process or methods
Disagreement over the best way to achieve a goal or solve a problem.
III Goals or purpose
Cannot agree on the basic purpose or mission of the relationship.
IV VALUES
Disagree about basic meanings of the relationship and things they hold dear.
The 4th of which is inevitably the most probable root cause of breakups. It is therefore wise that before we enter into any sort of relationship, differences in values should be a veto factor. The same theory can also be applied to the soups. It is by no means a coincidence that we came together and somehow realized the values we shared. Unconsciously we sought the soupship of those that held common values.
Life:
For the soupistoophilosophical, are you a stoic or epicurean? Just my take on life. Life is like a CD-R, never has it or will it be a CD-R/W. Just doesn't happen. Every once in a while we need to do a little reality check to determine where we are in life. A good test would be the funeral oration one. Think of what you would want others to exalt you for in your eulogy. Although it is impossible to get out of your coffin and deliver it yourself, the speech is then a reflection of the legacy or infamy which you have left behind. Quoting from my leadership prof., "Greatness happens in a lifetime not in a moment."
So start making a difference in your own life and in those of others, because when we die, we all return to ashes. But the legacy of a great man resonated for generations to come.
Food for thought:
Is there natural law in this world as described by thomas aquinas and cicero? What is the cosmos, logos and by who's authority does the government rule the people?
"I want my oh jian" thesoupistooxxx
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