The Reason
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support,
to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Soup Profiles 
We may come from different backgrounds, be of different races, speak different languages and have different interests but at the end of the day, we have all ended up in the same bowl of soup. As we expand into our latest wing, the soup blog, let us introduce our resident bloggers.
Chief Editor:
thesoupistooboss - Oversees the day to day operations of the soup
US Correspondent:
thesoupistooxxx - Based in Annapolis, thesoupistooxxx provides insight into the workings of the American society for our predominant Asian base.
Legal Correspondent:
thesoupistoosweet - A future legal eagle in the making.
Finance Correspondent:
thesoupistoofumo - Get a bigger picture of what's happening in the markets around you.
IT Correspondent:
thesoupistookinky - Our resident IT guy. Able to blog anywhere with an EEE PC permanently by his side.
Teenage Writer:
thesoupistooid - As we pass from our turbulent adolescence into adulthood, thesoupistooid seeks to keep us informed of the latest happenings with today's youth.
Anime Host:
thesoupistoogayy - Wondering what anime to watch? Or what's going to be released? Let our anime host tell you more.
Uncle Agony:
thesoupistoosalty -
Are you feeling blue? Is work getting you down? Are you having troubles with your relationship? Look no further than thesoupistoosalty and allow him to provide you with some of his invaluable advice.
Fitness Guru:
thesoupistoopradz -
Equipped with a state-of-the-art gymnasium, weekly workouts are in order.
Illustrator:
thesoupistooheng -
ze artistic flavour is brought out by the one and only.
We would also like to introduce our lovely covergirls! Girls like them are as hard to come by as it gets and we're thanking our lucky soups that they're here to stay. Lets us introduce, the beautiful, the stunning and the sexy CHENG, NETTE, AND EMMI!
*applause*
Tuesday, April 8, 2008
How then do you define love? Marriage is usually the cummulation of experiences and the affirmation or at least the belief that both parties are truly prepared to spend the rest of their lives together. Anything before that encompasses a much larger degree of uncertainty. Marriage is not only displaying your love to the rest of the world but acts as a psychological barrier as well. To commit into marriage will definitely take more consideration and thought as compared to getting yourself a girlfriend or boyfriend. To engage in pre-marital sex while both parties are still dating means that there is a large degree of uncertainty. Or, in Buffett terms, there is no margin of safety. If both of you love each other so much, why not get married? If it is for financial reasons that both you cannot get married, then why engage in pre-marital sex and risk a pregnancy which cannot be supported financially?
Relationships are not simply a 2 person issue. Your family and the other person's families are intertwined with it. What would both families have to say about a marriage brought about by a pregnancy? Like it or not, we are still a society with predominantly Asian cultures and values which I find particularly valuable in this day and age. Openess probably has its virtues but if you had watched Juno, such a situation would not be accepted in Singapore. To be attending high-school when you're 6-7 months pregnant is a definite no-go.
The physical aspect of a relationship is important but going all the way is really not necessary. Besides, there are other aspects of a relationship to develop so why not develop the other aspects more first which also helps to ensure that it is not simply lust nor is it a purely physical relationship. Is waiting for marriage too long to endure before engaging in the oldest form of pleasure? If so, perhaps some thought need be given to the whole thing.
thesoupistoofumo
the soup spilled @
1:48 PM
